Category Archives: Personality
What role should the parent be playing in the college admission process? Willard Dix suggest parents “Become a mentor as much as a parent” in his excellent artcile “Ten Ways For Parents To Get On Top Of The College Admission Process” providing a short guide to what he means by mentoring:
This is the moment you can begin to step back from your authoritative role to become a mentor, “guiding without steering.” Instead of telling your student what to do, you start asking open-ended and non-directive questions like, “Tell me why you like that college?” or “How do you think that major will help you in the future?” Finding a good balance here can be difficult if you’re used to being more directive, but you’ll be surprised how positive transferring responsibility while offering help when needed can be.
He follows this up with 9 other excellent points from “expect complications” to “talk about hopes” and “don’t nag.”
I want to follow up more on the role a parent can play that moves applying to college from a transaction to its own journey into self and how parents can and sould be a guide for that journey. So expect a part 2.
WHo shares insights straight from their admission officers and students?
- MIT Admission Blog–students and faculty. One of the oldest and still one of the best.
- Tuft’s Inside Admissions
- Olin’s Admission Blog
- Babson’s Admission Blog
- Women who will blog–Wellesly
- Amherst admission blog
- Speaking of Princeton
- UPENN’s admission Blog
- Penn State’s admission blog
- Cornell University Admission Blog
- Access Juliard Blog
- Life at UB–SUNY Buffalo
- Oberlin admission blog
- Admissions @ Lawrence
- Siena’s Admission’s Blog
- UVA’s Notes from Peabody–one of the original’s and still one of the best
- William and Mary’s Admission Blog
- Marymount’s admission Blog
- Vanderbilt’s admission blog
- Georgia Tech’s admission Blog
- University of Georgia
- Rice Owl’s Admission Blog
- Tulane’s admission Blog
- University of Denver promises Real People, Real Stories
- Stanford’s admission blog
- Cal Berkeley’s Golden Bear Blog
- University of Southern California’s admission Blog
- Cal Tech’s As it happens
- Harvey Mudd admission Blog
- Pitzer unpeeled –perhaps the best named blog
- Whitman college admission blog
- University of Illinois’ admission Blog
- NorthWestern’s Admission Blog
- U Chicago’s uncommon admission blog
- Loyola Chicago’s Admission Blog
- DEpauw Admission blog
- U Michigan’s Admission Blog
- Kalamazoo’s admission blog
- Carelton’s admission blog
- Experience Iowa‘s admission blog
- Luther College Admission blog
- Univeirsity of Nore Dame’s admission Blog
Not specific to a university:
- NACAC’s admitted Blog
- Lynn o”Shaughnessy’s College Solution Blog
- My Kid’s College Choice
- The now defunct New York Time’s The Choice’s Blog has great archived content
- ParentCountdown College Coach
Steve Wozniak has sage advice for all people, but especially for teens.
“But even in school, if you love something like mathematics, instead of working the assigned problems, do all the other ones too. Just decide, this is something I really love in life. I’m going to go a little further than school wants me to.”
“They looked at things I could do and saw the things that I liked and wanted to do but were outside of the normal school,” he said. “Look for mentors that want to help you in other places in life and take advantage of it when you can. Don’t turn down something that’s given to you.”
- VIA Character Strengths-reports out on 24 Character Strengths-20 to 25 minutes
- Stand-Out: Top 3 and video Curriculum via Lean-in-20 minutes
- DISC: Curtery of Tony Robbins Website-20 minutes
- VARK -Visual, Aural, Reading/writing, Kinestetic
- Learning styles inventory (5 minutes)
- Multiple intelligence Quiz
- Kolb’s Learning Style Inventroy–
- Grergorc Learning Styles Inventory–Someone has mapped out majors based on results
- My Majors
- UKcounsefinder–focuses on the UK
- Career Interest Profile (Strong)–New York Career Zone and California Career Zone
- Career Cluster Inventory–X may not mark the spot, but rather the general direction.
ISTP Under Stress:
College application season can be stressful and you may discover aspect of yourself. Under minor stress, your blind spots will emerge; under profound stress, the shadow side can come out. Your shadow is essentially the opposite of your normal personality. According to In The Grip, ISTP follow the same stress patterns as INTP:
First signs of stress:
- Becoming increasingly critical
- Making cutting, sarcastic judgments with little data to support them
- Losing their sharply honed focus
When stress takes over:
- Passionately defending themselves and their perceptions
- Becoming overly sensitive; may read negative intentions into innocuous interactions
- Responding to and expressing strong emotions
- Strict rules, regulations, or supervision
- Being confronted with strong emotions, especially personal criticisms
- Illogical procedures or incompetent people
Coach Analyzers to deal with stress by helping them:
- Recognize and confirm the stressful nature of the situation
- Move out of situations before they become overly stressful
- Focus on realities or ideas to help them see the situation more clearly
- Take time alone to lower the intensity of their experience
Solution – others should respect their physical and psychological space, lighten responsibilities, others should avoid asking them how they feel
According toTest on the Net, you might see the following:
- Feeling discounted, criticised, trivialised or not listened to.
- Being around people expressing powerful emotions or frequent or ongoing crisis situations.
- Not having the required amount of silence, solitude or space.
- Feeling controlled or that they have limited choices or freedom.
- Can lose their problem-solving abilities, self-confidence, and become socially awkward.
- May become slow, vague, distractible and dis-organised, forgetting and misplacing things.
- May feel numb, frozen or exhausted and unable to concentrate.
- Becomes less articulate, rambles, speaks rapidly, sometimes using convoluted logic.
- Upset, anxiety or annoyances are expressed with very subtle body language such as a raised eyebrow, or distant look.
- Easily overreacts to the innocent remarks or body language of others, often misinterpreting them as personal slights or disapproval.
- May feel exceedingly isolated from the world, unloved and unlovable.
- Uncomfortable memories of being very different as a child and an outcast can be triggered.
- They may become obstinate about applying logic, turning quite emotional about their method.
- Unsolvable problems are obsessively worked at anyway, even if they can’t be solved.
- Emotional reactions such as frustration, anger or sadness can be swift, intense and surprising to themselves and others.
- Engaging in challenging but mostly solitary physical activities like rock climbing.
- Taking long walks in nature.
- Being alone, reading, playing solitaire or doing activities with repetitive handling.
- Having others give them their space while keeping calm.
- Letting others run errands and deal with the outside world for awhile.
- Getting a reality check from a knowledgeable person.
- Finding a new idea, insight or perspective in their situation.
- Accepting that life and people are sometimes just plain illogical.
- Recognising and acknowledging their own vulnerability and the vulnerability of others.
- Increasing their ability to safely express the depth of their feeling in the normal course of events.
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ISTJ Under Stress:
College application season can be stressful and you may discover aspect of yourself. Under minor stress, your blind spots will emerge; under profound stress, the shadow side can come out. Your shadow is essentially the opposite of your normal personality. According to Test on the Net, you might see the following:
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